Stakeholder resources for aboriginal and torres strait islander peoples

As parents and influencers of our young people, we want the best for them, and for our community.

We want our young people to be healthy and proud of who they are. We want them to understand right and wrong. We want them to respect others and respect themselves.

Young people pick up their behaviours from us, their parents and elders. Sometimes, without meaning to, we might say things that excuse disrespectful behaviour towards women, and this sends an unhealthy message to our young people.

When we say things like “boys will be boys”, or “he was having a bad day”, our young people start to believe there are reasons and situations that make disrespectful behaviour acceptable.

Violence against women starts with disrespect. The excuses we make let it grow.

We can all help stop it at the start.

We hope you can support this important campaign by sharing these resources within your networks.


Text version of Yarning about respect – Stop it at the Start video
Our young people, even from little bubbas, look to us to learn how things are done.
Mums and dads, aunties, uncles, grannies and pops, Elders, our community teachers, coaches and bosses.
Kids see everything we do.
They notice the good and the bad.
Like a sponge, they soak it all up.
So when we brush off or make excuses for being disrespectful.
Even if we don’t mean to, like
“Boys will be boys ya know”
“He just did it because he likes ya”
“Look at what she’s wearing”
It makes our boys, even as littlies, learn to think it’s okay to be like that.
And our girls too. They learn to think it’s alright, that’s just how boys are.
So, it’s up to all of us to stop violence against women and girls at the start.
Sometimes in our communities, it can feel bigger than our mob can handle.
But it’s not. Aggression against women and girls is not our culture.
It’s never been our way and it shouldn’t be the way now.
It comes down to doing the little things, like yarning with our young people about respect, and how women and girls should be treated.
Like when you see or hear something you’re not comfortable with.
If they have a question, or when they just want to yarn with you.
You could talk when you’re having brekkie before school.
Or driving in the car.
Or even watching telly.
Not just one time, but lots of times, so it becomes just what you do.
It means calling out disrespectful stuff when it goes on.
And helping our young people learn what’s right and wrong.
Bringing up respect.
So, let’s forget shame and keep working together on making our young people the best they can be.
Because every yarn helps shape them.
If you need some help on how to get started and what you can yarn about with young fellas.
You can go to
Let’s bring up respect.


As part of the Stop it at the Start campaign, four RESPECT Coach the Coach Clinics were held across Australia. These clinics acknowledged the influential role that coaches play and promoted the importance of bringing up respect with young people in sport.

Hosted by proud Kalkadoon man and NRL legend, Scott Prince, the clinics were held in Darwin, Dubbo, Cairns and Logan, with coaches from a range sports coming together to share their experiences and explore how we can all best Bring Up Respect. You can watch the video from the clinics here.

This video, the playbook and presentation are provided so you can use them to start the conversation at your club or even host your own Respect Coach the Coach Clinic.

Respect Playbook


Respect Promise Card